Do all things with Love

Just recently I realized how the rush and schedules of everyday life tends to over whelm me and I miss out on those precious moments of my young childrens lives. This week I decided to take a break from my business and take a break from all of the daily household duties. As hard as it is for me to do this I felt it was important for my children. I put aside my computer which I spend a lot of my time on, I put aside the laundry and I spent every second of my day with the boys.

We watched Christmas movies, we ate popcorn, we colored, we played games, we simply had fun and did what we wanted. We threw out the schedules and did what we wanted. As I sat back and watched them play today I realized just how fast they have grown up. As my 2yr old played power rangers with my 4 year old I watched in amazement just how many moves he had learned from his big brother. It seemed like just yesterday I was still holding him and feeding him from a bottle. Now he's a big boy using the potty on his own. He is so independent. I look back and still remember just how hard things were when they were younger.

I recall feeding the twins while being pregnant with Blake. I remember being so much in love with the twins that I never wanted to put them down. I would carry both of them while being pregnant with Blake even though I wasn't allowed! My husband would yell at me and try and nicely say "honey you know you shouldn't carry the twins while your pregnant it's just too much for you." I would think too much for me, well hey I'm a Mom! what's too much for a Mom?! They needed me still even though I was pregnant. At that same time I was potty training my two oldest. Dominic had the hardest time with potty training and never really got the hang of it all until he was about four. Even though he is now five he still sometimes has accidents. He's always just too busy playing to stop and go to the potty. Bedtime was CRAZY!! My husband worked 16 hr days and was rarely ever home. I was working full time during the days and being a Mommy full time at night.

I'm still not sure how I did it all. I guess being a Mom I never even questioned my crazy schedule or ever realized that I was actually living one. People would say to me how do you do it all with so many little babies. I would smile and say I really don't know I just do. Not everyone is cut out to be a Mom. I truly believe that. It takes a special person to be a Mom. Mom's are special we never question our actions no matter how crazy they may seem to others we simply do what is best for our children and we do what makes them happy. My husband still can't understand how I can hold a child while they are throwing up and not get sick myself. I tell him I do it because they simply need me and knowing that they need me gives me purpose. The love I have for my boys is like no other. Words could never describe just how much they mean to me. Although I am often so busy that I frequently say to them please wait a minute Mommy is busy or I'll be with you in a second I have to finish helping your brother. I go from one thing to the next and then finally I can't even remember what I was doing in the first place. I may start out doing the dishes and then a child needs me so I attend to them while I might find a sock laying on the floor. So that sock gets picked up and from there I find a toy. So I then take the toy and put it away where I find that someone needs a drink so off to get a drink I go. I see that there is a school paper that needs signed so I sign the paper and what do I find? A letter that needs mailed so off to the mailbox I go. Then I think now what was it that I was doing?! It happens so fast and so often that sometimes I feel like I am simply losing my mind!

Kids don't need perfection. They only need to know that we love them no matter how busy we may get. Although we would love to have those "I love you" moments more often they simply can't happen 24/7 no matter how hard we try. My children love me no matter what and they some how understand just how busy life can get but they always know I love them and that I care. This holiday season take the time and spend a few days to show your child that 24/7 attention that they deserve. Things might not get done but just remember it's only one day and there will be so many more days to do all of those other things. You never know you might even learn something new from them.

On another note I found this poem that I wanted to share. I thought that it fit me so perfect seeing as I'm a Mother of all boys. I thought it was very cute and just couldn't resist sharing it with you.

The Mother of Boys

I am a Mother of boys.
I play goalie as I make supper.
I can dribble a ball as I answer the phone
and can assemble a train as I nurse a baby.
I am a Mother of Boys.

I measure a good day not by the weather or
the company, but by the number of bugs caught, the
quality of the sticks found, and the depth of the puddles splashed.
I am a Mother of boys.

Fascinated ears listen to me tell tales of alligators, dinosaurs, and
fast cars. I do load upon load of blue laundry;
the only pink item to be seen is when a red sock makes its way into the white load.
I check all laundry for reptiles and rocks.
I am a Mother of boys.

I most frequently say, "not so rough," "get down, please," and
"watch where you're peeing." I get dizzy watching little bodies
run circles around my inanimate object.
I am a Mother of boys.

I wipe forever-dirty faces and hands.
At night, I am amazed by the many new bruises and scrapes.
I join in prayers that thank God for airplanes
and pirates and smarties candies.
I am the luckiest Mother on earth.
I am the Mother of boys.

Jennifer Lynn Clay